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| A rare update
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| Sunday, June 07, 2009
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My blog has been rather quiet cos my life's now flying like a fighter jet plane. Everything's zooming real fast and furious that sometimes I just can't seem to catch up with a whole load of things. 24 hours is seriously not enough for me to do everything that I want to.
I apologise for my previous emo-filled post. Just trying to deal with the whole long distance relationship thing. Glad that my hubby's back for a couple of months. I guess spending time with him is of utmost importance... but here we are trying to settle the whole wedding thing, trying to buy a house... etc... so I guess we've hit this zone in the relationship where everything's down to more practical things rather than the whole knight in shining armour sweeping you off your feet/romantic clouds in the air.
Speaking of weddings, it's hard to plan something that you aren't familiar with. It's like stepping into the unknown. What to do, where to go, what to buy, who to invite is all like a blur to me. Most girls have a detailed picture of their dream wedding and the things they want or don't want. But when it comes to me, i've no idea where to start from or when to start the planning. I don't even know what I want exactly for my wedding... I'm such an abnormal bride.
All I know is that I'm not the kind of bride that enjoys a whole load of attention like inviting hordes of people whom I don't really know well nor do I enjoy the tacky cheesy wedding photos that you see lining the streets of bridal lanes of Singapore... other than that, I've no freaking idea of what a wedding should be like. So if anyone likes to help me in this department, it'll be deeply appreciated. :)
Just a side-rant... Singapore's weather is really irritating the crap out of me. The whole 33 degrees Celsius and 100% humidity thing is not working well. Even when I sleep, I am perspiring. Need to pray for loads of wind and rain (without the water... lol).
Alright... that's all for a quick update!
*Shanea Out (quick update) 12:58am*
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posted by Jasmine Shanea @ 12:22 AM
 
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| Soliloquy
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| Tuesday, March 24, 2009
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| I may appear strong, stubborn and that everything's alright. But in actual fact, all that is within me is uncertainty, fear and much loneliness. Sure, I can paint colors on my world to tell others of that light at the end of my tunnel. But I know in my heart of the pain to walk each step on my own.
For the sake of the happiness and life of others, I stand like a solid tree. When all I feel inside is but like a drifting weed. I say nothing about myself and hide behind closed doors Just wishing time will just pass away from me.
I share nothing because no one will ever understand Because the things you want to hear will never be what I want to say. The things I need are not the things you can give to me now And this truly hurts when mixed in with loneliness
I don't know how much longer I can hold onto this pain The hurt is eroding me from the inside But for the world and for your needs I will just be. And pretend that this is but just another day.
*Shanea Out (....) @ 8:16pm* |
| posted by Jasmine Shanea @ 7:42 PM
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| "I-live-in-the-best-zone-in-Singapore" Sydnrome
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| Monday, March 02, 2009
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 Less than an hour ago, I met some old lady at a traffic junction and she was asking where the nearest supermarket was. Thinking that she might be someone who doesn't get out much, I quickly told her where it was (ok, I was a tad mean to think that way).
But then while waiting for the light to turn green, she volunteered a very interesting piece of information in Chinese - "I've just moved here 2 months ago from Hougang (the northeast part of Singapore) and compared to Hougang, this area seems to have nothing to eat and do!"
I was like... "ARE YOU CRAZY??!! The East is the most happening place and you just DEFILED MY HOLY LAND!"
But I didn't say that to her... I was just screaming at her in my mind.
That got me thinking... Singapore is a tiny island city. Everyone knows that. According to this site,
"Singapore consists of the island of Singapore and some 63 islets within its territorial waters. The main island is about 26 mi/42 km from west to east and 14 mi/23 km from north to south. It's a mostly undulating country with low hills (the highest, 540-ft/166-m Bukit Timah Hill, is to the northwest of the city)." Our tallest hill isn't even a hill! It's like a super large road hump. Seriously. But to me, this is home and most people who live in massively huge countries with multiple states, regions, towns and cities, Singapore is just... one small puny city and think that most Singaporeans are just well, Singaporeans. But what I realised today is that Singaporeans actually function as though we live in a super huge country! Well, I'm guilty of this syndrome too.
Although I was born in the the western region of Singapore, most of my coming-to-24-years of my life has always been residing, developing and growing in the east. All my life, the east part of Singapore is the most happening place to be... we have a great park/beach (although most of the sand comes from Indonesia), loads of great food (Katong laksa, prawn noodles, Geylang frog porridge etc etc) and we have the airport like super close to us. Heck, only the most happening people stay in the East!
But one of my colleagues who grew up in the northern part of Singapore says the same thing about her area too! All along during my childhood, I always thought there wasn't much life in the other parts of Singapore! I always thought that only factory workers lived in the West (because Tuas was there)... Northerners just wanna be closer to Malaysia and well, Northeasterners just need cheap housing in the midst of jungle. It's only the Easterners who are the most happening with all the sports, travelling and food you can get.
Before you think any ill of me, I'm being honest and I'm learning to change my mindset over the years but I still can help having this weird feeling that I've stepped into a different world when I visit the western part of Singapore or the northern part. I start to look at the Singaporeans living there in a weird fashion and somehow feel like a fish out of water when technically, we are all Singaporeans! I think most Singaporeans share the same sentiments... called the "I-LIVE-IN-THE-BEST-ZONE" syndrome.
So if you are from somewhere with many states and regions and stuff and wondering how Singaporeans live, think and breathe, take it from a Singaporean here... we have many "states" too -- just that where you are from, states can be as far as from the tip of your tallest finger on your left hand to your tallest finger on your right hand. BUT IN SINGAPORE, states are only as far as your thumb to your pinkie.
And once I get married, this Easterner here will miss all things great about the East and migrate westward. Thank God I have two years to prepare myself and enjoy the last of what I love about living in the East of Singapore.
Singaporeans are sure funny, huh?
*Shanea Out (being Singaporean) @1:10pm* |
| posted by Jasmine Shanea @ 12:34 PM
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| "It's hard to meet boys..."
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| Saturday, February 21, 2009
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 After watching 'He's Just Not That Into You' and speaking to some of my female friends, it kinda got me thinking about the whole concept of dating, especially in an Asian society like Singapore. What we see on the big screens and even on telly about dating is simply just.... not working here.
Sure, over in the freedom nation... a single girl feeling lonely and looking for a potential man to sleep with have the option of gong bar hopping, clubbing or just sit at a coffee joint in anticipation of a guy to simply drop right beside them and start a conversation which may or may not lead to a one night stand and/or relationship. Ask some American women where they met their men and you can be confident of hitting a 'oh i met him at that club...' or 'you know, we were at the supermarket and he started asking me about butter...' kind of reaction.
BUT here in Singapore... as an average single woman, you hardly get men coming up to you at a coffee joint or even at the clubs (unless they are totally high or have been dared by their mates). Usually relationships spring out from meeting friends of friends or the single woman and man were in the same social circle or setting which led to friendship which then led to a relationship. Hardly do you meet women who met their man while riding the bus or just happen to be working out at the same gym. Somehow asian men find it harder to approach random women and vice versa for fear of looking desperate and psycho.
So, indeed many women have complained that it is hard to date in Singapore unless you set yourself up in a social circle filled with single men. Then again, you still need the right time and conversation to start things going... if not, you would just be a single woman stuck in a horde of single men and nothing would come out of that. Even for me, I met my hubby through one of my good guy friends during the social setting of a cell group in church (and might I say, I am really grateful to have met him and have him in my life).
So my point is... the idea of just randomly meeting men at a club/pub/coffee join/supermarket/gym just like in the movies and falling madly in love, you can just forget about it here in Asia, or at least Singapore. The idea of protecting your image/reputation (if any) just stops single people from approaching one another just to strike up a conversation. No wonder the age of marriage has gone up and less kids are being born... cos it's just too hard to meet boys.
Some people might lay claim to the fact that Singapore has several dating agencies... but hey, what's your impression of dating agencies? (ans: desperate, older people, some might even fall into the category of left on the shelf). So that's out of the window. Singapore would definitely be a more dating friendly society if people (both men and women) could just be bolder and go up to someone they think is cute/hot/charming at ANY social setting and just say hi. Stop taking them as just eye candy and watch them from afar! Start doing something to make things work!
And to those who are being approached: please don't think that person is being psycho. He/She is just into you.
*Shanea Out (dating woes) @ 11:52am* |
| posted by Jasmine Shanea @ 11:34 AM
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| This girl is engaged.
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| Thursday, January 15, 2009
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 Yup. simple statement and photo for evidence would suffice for my blog. I kinda put a photo of the ring and changed my relationship status on facebook... and the next thing I know, tons of well wishes from my friends, aquaintances and even former colleagues and professors. Gosh. The power of social media has come to haunt me yet again.
I'm happy to have everyone around me share this special event in life with me. Even tho it wasn't like a romantic and fireworks kinda propsal (trust me... he just gave me the ring while on a bus ride to lunch on a saturday afternoon).
But I'm glad that I am going to spend my life with my hubby. He kinda burst his budget for the diamond that I really wanted and I just feel the love from him... so no need for like one bended knee stuff... as long as love is felt, I guess a back-of-the-bus proposal is great too.
The wedding would not be so soon... maybe in a couple years' time due to the whole hubby-going-to-Europe thing. So everything will be put on hold until further notice. So maybe you can look at this engagement as a book-the-girl-before-she-change-her-mind-when-i-am-overseas kinda tactic. hahaa... but I must say it works.
Yup... so this is just a blog notice to tell everyone... the bling says it all. :)
*Shanea Out (bling bling) @ 9;29pm* |
| posted by Jasmine Shanea @ 9:06 PM
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